My Top 12 Deal Breakers
Posted on May 18, 2012 by Saab Magalona
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It's your first time to visit the house of the boy you've been dating. He wants you to meet his parents - a milestone! He's everything you could have hoped for and, boy, is he cute. He's so nice and sweet to you until the maid takes a little too long bringing out the juice he asked for. He starts barking at her and calls her names and speaks to her like she's dirt. The world stops. This changes everything.
Deal Breakers are behaviors or habits that make Gandalf a sudden forcefield between you and your boy.
Here are my Top 12 Deal Breakers (not in any order):
1. Beatlexia
I would normally say if you meet him at a club, you're not likely going to end up with him but a guy in a club is not a deal breaker. The deal breaker is if he knows every song playing in the club (Ne-yo, LMFAO, etc.) and when you mention the classics, he does not know what you're talking about. Or worse, he knows The Beatles but does not like them. NEXT!
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2. Bore-ophyll
You always have to question what his passion is. Is it music? Art? Writing? Basketball? Someone with no passion is someone with no interests. This leads to no drive, no stability, no future, no fun. Drinking-slash-getting high is not a passion. The number one thing that gets me is if a guy is funny!
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3. Vain? Dein.
It's alright to exercise or go to the gym. In fact, I encourage it! But if you'd rather have a protein shake or some celery stick bull than eat a burger with me then we will have problems. Eating is bonding. There was this one guy I knew who was making a move on my friend. We went on an out-of-town trip and on the ride back, the whole van had to stop because he said he had to eat. He was on an After Six diet (no eating after 6PM). I mean... Bring a snack pack if you must, don't take everyone down with you. Plus, stop talking about your workout. I don't care about how many "reps" you did at the gym today. Your abs won't make me laugh.
4. Play-UGH
Must I even explain this one? Guy texts you sweet things then you find out he's sending the exact same messages to your friend. I mean, come on.
5. Public Display of Atenista
I don't mean to offend Ateneans (P.D.L. wouldn't make sense) but this behavior is commonly seen in boys who went to exclusive schools. They form borderline gay relationships with their peers. An ex-boyfriend was very sweet to me when it was just the two of us but when we were in school and in front of his friends, he didn't want to hold my hand. I guess so he wouldn't appear that in love. He actually told me that his barkada gave him this advice while we were having problems - "Girlfriend lang yan, bro, napapalitan yan. Kaming barkada mo habangbuhay." Uhhh.. OKAY. I dumped him that same day. Masyadong pa-cool. Bros before hoes mo mukha mo. Haha!
6. Pre-mature Proposal
Don't go telling everyone that a girl is your girlfriend after going on one date. Once upon a concert does not make a happy ever after. And don't kiss and tell, you loser.
7. Diss-eminate
I can deal with rants from my boyfriend and I will keep his insecurities in confidence because I understand the need to let your frustrations go and vent to the people you trust. But once he starts broadcasting how everyone else sucks and he's the only cool one it's so gross. Instead of turning off girls, why don't you turn off the arrogance.
8. Poison Ivler
Boys with no patience are dangerous. Road rage is one of the easiest ways to see someone's temper. Why flip off every stupid driver? We're in Manila, 90% of drivers are stupid. I appreciate a guy who enjoys crush hour (spending rush hour with your crush and not noticing the traffic).
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9. The Mean Justify Their End
I have zero tolerance for boys who are rude especially to the help. I would like to be with someone who knows how to at least use the magic words.
10. Ill-litter-ate
Guys who don't care about Mother Nature do not think about the future. What about our future children and the world they will have to live in?:(
11. Notting Hill
It's healthy to have cute little competitions with your guy but the competition turns sour when the fact that you may be more successful than him (i.e. earning more, having higher grades) makes him resent you. You both should wish for each other's success and if at any point you find yourself wishing for something short of his best then you should rethink your relationship.
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12. Coke Regular
Drugs are dangerous. I like my man to be Coke Zero.
Forming this list came from experience and I encourage girls and boys alike to make their own list of Deal Breakers. I'm all for giving love a chance but never settle for the short end of the stick! Feel free to leave a comment or tweet me (@saabmagalona) your personal deal breakers. Use the hashtag #DealBreaker to join the conversation!
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Comments
Kathleen Joie Antonio said:
Great article Saab! I agree on most of the things on your list, especially the last one. I know most people say how some drugs are okay esp the "herbs" but still. It's a big big no-no for me. Anyway, I created a similar list in my blog months ago, hope you can check it out: http://katantonio.wordpress.com/2011/10/29/good-enough-to-stay-or-bad-enough-to-leave/ Cheers! Kat
(May 21, 2012 12:00:00 AM)
Great article Saab! I agree on most of the things on your list, especially the last one. I know most people say how some drugs are okay esp the "herbs" but still. It's a big big no-no for me. Anyway, I created a similar list in my blog months ago, hope you can check it out: http://katantonio.wordpress.com/2011/10/29/good-enough-to-stay-or-bad-enough-to-leave/ Cheers! Kat
(May 21, 2012 12:00:00 AM)
Hannah Lim said:
I definitely agree with a lot of these things, except number 5. First thing that caught my attention was "borderline gay relationships." I'm a bit offended by that phrase because "gay" is being used as a derogatory term. But that's totally beside my main point (I'm just being a bit sensitive about it because I know people who are gay and, as you may know, the gay marriage debate is still heavily going on). Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that "Bros before hoes" can be looked at a different perspective. I do believe that you have to value your friendship with your friends because they have been around longer. (Now, I'm not saying it's right to not hold your boy/girlfriend's hand when around friends.) I'm just saying that your boy/girlfriends may not always be around or may not last, especially if you guys are a new couple and have just started dating. Your friends will stick to you, just like your family, but if they seem like they are trying to unreasonably tear you apart from someone, then obviously that's not good. I'm a girl so it's easier for me to imagine this scenario: if I had a friend who started dating this guy and she stops hanging out with me and my friends and keeps cancelling plans with her girlfriends to hang out with her boyfriend, I would definitely say, "What ever happened to 'bros before hoes'?" (The saying definitely applies to girls too.) Another example: A boy is dating a really bitchy girl and stops hanging out with his guy friends just so he can attend to the demands of his girlfriend. This is where "Bros before hoes" can be applied. Of course, things change if you guys have been dating for a long time or are to be married or something. I'm sorry that you had to dump your boyfriend, he sounded like a jerk, but maybe you guys just started dating? If you did and he treated you that way, then he doesn't understand the meaning and value of your relationship the same level you do.
(May 20, 2012 12:00:00 AM)
I definitely agree with a lot of these things, except number 5. First thing that caught my attention was "borderline gay relationships." I'm a bit offended by that phrase because "gay" is being used as a derogatory term. But that's totally beside my main point (I'm just being a bit sensitive about it because I know people who are gay and, as you may know, the gay marriage debate is still heavily going on). Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that "Bros before hoes" can be looked at a different perspective. I do believe that you have to value your friendship with your friends because they have been around longer. (Now, I'm not saying it's right to not hold your boy/girlfriend's hand when around friends.) I'm just saying that your boy/girlfriends may not always be around or may not last, especially if you guys are a new couple and have just started dating. Your friends will stick to you, just like your family, but if they seem like they are trying to unreasonably tear you apart from someone, then obviously that's not good. I'm a girl so it's easier for me to imagine this scenario: if I had a friend who started dating this guy and she stops hanging out with me and my friends and keeps cancelling plans with her girlfriends to hang out with her boyfriend, I would definitely say, "What ever happened to 'bros before hoes'?" (The saying definitely applies to girls too.) Another example: A boy is dating a really bitchy girl and stops hanging out with his guy friends just so he can attend to the demands of his girlfriend. This is where "Bros before hoes" can be applied. Of course, things change if you guys have been dating for a long time or are to be married or something. I'm sorry that you had to dump your boyfriend, he sounded like a jerk, but maybe you guys just started dating? If you did and he treated you that way, then he doesn't understand the meaning and value of your relationship the same level you do.
(May 20, 2012 12:00:00 AM)
Doji Lopez said:
Always smart and nice. How about compulsive flossing?
(May 19, 2012 12:00:00 AM)
Always smart and nice. How about compulsive flossing?
(May 19, 2012 12:00:00 AM)
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Maria Isabella Simone Magalona says:
Very nice article, too! Thank you for sharing!!:) (May 23, 2012)